Are you feeling like you’re constantly BUSY? Being pulled in every direction and constantly burning the candle at both ends? Yeah, I know me too. It’s what I (not so) affectionately refer to as the Icky Late 20’s Priority Shuffle.
Until my mid 20’s I ran around doing whatever the hell I wanted when I wanted. I had plenty of time with my friends, was able to spend time with my family, worked non-demanding jobs, drank on weekends (every weekend) and had no inclination to grow up. But every year past 25 became a ticking time bomb… I was plagued with questions like “what are you going to do with your life?” and “isn’t it about time you made some decisions about your future?”. Whether I wanted it or not, it felt like it was time to grow up.
So you start sowing seeds for your future, you apply for the big girl jobs and start putting your hand up for extra work in hopes for a promotion. You start seriously dating instead of “having fun”, you might even buy a house, a dog or get married. At the same time as all of this is happening, you’re still desperately trying to hang on to your early 20s life. So you’re working like a maniac all week, drinking and socialising on weekends (and even on week nights because you need to make time for all your friends), you’re trying to make time for your parents and family too… and if by this stage you have a SO you’ll be torn between seeing them and trying to fit in everyone else. God help you if you’re like me (absolutely insane) and trying to run a business as well as all of the above!
Cue: Burnout !
I’ve burnt out more times than I can count lately. It’s such an awkward stage of life… your priorities are starting to change and you might no longer identify as the person you were in your early 20’s. Sure, fundamentally you’ve got the same values… but your state of mind has shifted. Instead of partying all weekend you suddenly LOVE the idea of a Friday night on the couch and you may start to feel a little distant from your friends as you all settle into different stages of life.
The one thing I’m learning (hard and fast) is that you can’t please everyone. If you’re at a stage of life where you’re 29 and still hitting the clubs on weekends… then girl you do you. If you’re suddenly less social and throwing yourself into building your future… then girl you do you. If you want to quit your job and go travel the world at 30 … (you know what I’m going to say) girl you do you.
We only have this one life… you’ve got to live it on your terms and stop trying to please everyone. Don’t let people try to pressure you into doing something you’re not interested in, to be someone you no longer want to be or let anyone tell you that you’re too old for something! Try to surround yourself with people who support you at whatever stage you’re at. It’s easier said than done and if I’m honest, I still struggle with this! Everyone says your late 20’s / early 30’s are the best stages of your life…. Make sure you’re living them the best way you know how and on your terms.