I know what you’re thinking… “I’m *insert age*, I know where I’m going and what I want thank you very much!” and to be honest I thought that too. But at age 27 I found myself scouring the internet trying to find my “passion” and having no idea where to start. Surely if I knew myself well, I’d know the answer right?
Over the years our interests and passions change and evolve, just as we do and studies have shown that they change a lot more than we anticipate. If you think about it, what was your greatest interest 10 years ago? Chances are it's completely different to what you’re interested in today. The problem is that we don’t allow time to check in with our constantly changing selves, we’re so busy investing our emotional energies into the lives of others (cue repeats of Love Island and The Bachelor), or keeping busy doing what we’ve always done (our habits).
But when was the last time you really sat down and had a one on one with yourself?
It's time we re-visited. I’ve tried and tested a lot of methods for getting to know myself better, but I found the 5 questions below to be a really good start point.
1. What do I absolutely love in life?
Write a list of all the things, places and people that you love in your life. Think about any activities that get you excited and make you feel alive. This can be absolutely anything: music, sports, cooking, teaching others, learning, watching movies—anything. Within your love for these things lies your passions.
2. What are my greatest accomplishments in life so far?
List all of the moments that you are proud of as well as the times that you’ve succeeded. See if you can identify why you succeeded. Also, list any activities, hobbies, or tasks that you complete with ease. This question will help you identify your strengths.
3. What would I stand for if I knew no one would judge me?
List everything that you would do if you weren’t afraid, even your wildest dreams. This will help you discover your greatest values.
4. What would I do if I had one billion dollars?
List everything that you would do if you had all the money in the world. Okay, so you would probably quit your job, travel the world, buy a house or two, and give some money to your family or charity. Then what would you do with your time? How would you spend your days if you had no financial limitations?
When we think without limitations we come closer to understanding what it is we really want to do and where we want to invest our time.
5. Who do I admire most in the world?
Make a list of people who inspire you and the qualities that you admire about them. Did you know that what you see in others is a direct reflection of what you see in yourself? This question will help you see your admirable qualities and help you identify how to use them to be inspirational to others.
Taking the time to check in and answer these questions will change the way you look at life.
The more that you can intertwine your passions, strengths, values and motivations into your days, the happier you will become.
Author Stephen Richards was right when he said : “What we perceive about ourselves is greatly a reflection of how we will end up living our lives.”
So make sure you’re living a life that’s a true reflection of you.