We’re told from such a young age to go to school, get a good job, work hard and retire. We’re told by our parents and also by society that money is going to give us freedom and therefore joy and happiness. Didn’t we all grow up wanting to be rich? Now we’re older we’re working our asses off in jobs we hate trying to make enough to “be comfortable”. We’re thinking how the hell am I going to make sure I provide my kids with the kind of life I envisioned for them? How the hell am I going to pay my bills next week?
We’ve been told that Money = Freedom and Freedom = Happiness.
But if you take a closer look at people with money you’ll see that more often than not, they’re not happy or free.
Robin Williams had everything. An amazing career making people laugh, moving people with his heartfelt acting and kindness. A beautiful family and wife. More money than he could know what to do with. Big houses, cars, friends. All the money in the world and yet he hung himself in his own living room and his kids found his body.
He committed suicide because he didn’t know what made him happy. Because he had no fulfilment. Because despite achieving all of his wildest dreams… he still wasn’t happy.
And to be honest most of us don’t know what makes us truly happy. We’re all constantly waiting for the next best thing…
We think that we’ll be happier when its finally the weekend, or when our big holiday rolls around. We think we’ll be happier when we find “the one”, or when we get the job we’ve been wanting. We think we’ll be happier when we get married, or when we have a baby... and then maybe when the babies are a bit older because kids are bloody hard work.
We tell ourselves things will be easier when the kids grow up and surely we’ll be happy when they finally move out. But before we know it we’re 55 years old and we’re still waiting for happiness... How long are we going to spend WAITING for our lives to start?
What are you waiting FOR?
Happiness isn’t something that you’re going to find somewhere or in someone.
Happiness isn’t easy to find and you’re not going to just stumble across it.
If you want to know the secret to your REAL happiness, you have to find it IN you.
I wasted plenty of years living a life that wasn’t designed by me. I life that I happened upon. Working jobs I fell into and happened to be good at, but didn’t love. Relationships with men who gave me fleeting moments of happiness, but who were ultimately toxic. Shopping for clothes every weekend because it made me feel good, drinking most nights for a little buzz. I was grateful for my life, but it wasn’t fulfilling.
I knew deep down that there had to be more.
Happiness looks different for everyone.
But happiness for me is balance. It’s about spending more time with my family and loved ones. It’s not working like a slave for a pay check and missing valuable moments… which might mean less money, but its more time for the things and people I love. It’s about doing yoga and exercise when I feel like it and because I want to. It’s about writing and getting creative. But most of all for me, it’s about connection. I’m my happiest when I’m connecting. When I watch others connecting. Happiness for me isn’t about money or material things. It’s about doing something everyday that actually lights me up. Something that feeds my soul.
So what makes YOU happy?
What gets you excited?
What makes your heart beat faster?
What would you do if money wasn’t an issue… If you woke up tomorrow & you were a billionaire, what would you do with you time?
Delve deep, figure out what makes your soul happy. It’s more important than any pay check will ever be.